Source: http://before-itstoolate.blogspot.com/ | Baby dumping in Malaysia
Another of baby dumping furore did little to surprise the socially-maligned Malaysians. Recent statistics prove that its heinous nature made no difference to implant the preventive thought as the numbers kept increasing year by year. A saddening reality to note that as a self-proclaimed Islamic country, baby dumping incidents mostly involve Malaysian Muslims. Islam is a religion that emphasises good moral values, kindness, sympathy and empathy among many others, hence it’s of nonsensical mismatch for this inhumane social upset to mostly involve its believers especially with the embodiment of Islam in our laws and administration.
Source: http://before-itstoolate.blogspot.com/ | Among the solutions in implementation
The pattern of this consistent, continuous strain of incidents is kind of similar, if taken from the context of newspaper reports. Yes, it can be conceded that such can probably be avoided if we all live by the means and boundaries of religion. This line of statement is what leading to the rollercoaster of approaches that concerning parties feel as best to solve this persistent social spiral, i.e, the setting up of ‘special school’ in Melaka, months-long religious camps by certain States and et cetra.
Among the examples of solutions in their implementation:
Baby hatch was launched on 30 May 2010 in Petaling Jaya, Selangor.
It is built to rescue unwanted newborns, a place where mothers must be allowed to leave their babies without fear of prosecution so that these babies can be cared for.
Source: http://www.bharian.com.my/ | Illegitimate child left at the hatchet
The hatch has a small door which opens to an incubator bed on which mother can place her baby.Once the door is closed, an alarm bell will alert the NGO’s staff to the baby’s presence after the mother left.
PLACES FOR TEENS & PREGNANT MOTHERS
There are several places that give special services to married or unmarried teens who are pregnant, as well as rape victims.
They will give special education to let them know on how to handle the situation in the future and to care for their babies.
The existing place for these teens are Sekolah Harapan (click here), Baitul Ehsan, Baitul Islah.
Campaign is one of the solutions to raise awareness of this issue to the public. One of the campaign’s focus is “Kami Prihatin”.
It was launched on 23 March 2010, aimed to raise awareness among the community on child abuses and abandoned babies. There were several activities that had been organized; such as to promote child protection policy, a documentary and also by publishing community awareness advertisement in Utusan Malaysia.
However, we often forget to indulge in its most fundamental reasons that cause the rising numbers of baby dumping, but rather playing the blame-game to earn the public’s attention revolving religion and politics.
Sex has always been a taboo subject to be discussed openly by fellow Malaysians. In fact, I’d bet that most parents would rather want their children to learn about sex by themselves, of course with the assumption that they will eventually know about sex when the time is right.
Essentially, the question remains that when exactly is the ‘right time’ for teenagers of raging hormones to learn about sex?
This huge neglect of responsibility led the naive and curious youngsters to be blinded by the excitement that comes with it. Our faulty impression of physical intimacy as the sole denominator is ‘sex’ is the common misconception among traditional parents and those shying away, rejecting the idea of sex education in school. It’s with this notion that hardliners perceive sex education as an ‘encouragement’ for teenagers to experiment, as though having zero knowledge about reproductive system and health is better than 16-year olds ending up getting pregnant due to the lack of it.
This lack of sex education eventually becomes an unwelcomed surprise, as the turn of events later have it as portrayed in daily news updates. Of course, the same people who rejected the idea of their children getting sex education will be the ones most affected by another innocent life being left in drain, or worse, eaten to death; whom body is found from the dustbins by stray dogs.
But again, do these young parents have a choice?
Are they to be blamed for dumping the babies when there’s no one who can accept their mistake & give parental advices, rather than blaming?
KUALA LUMPUR, Aug 20 — Police say a majority of baby-dumping cases involve Malays which observers say is the result of the stigma of illegitimate children and the community being ill-equipped to deal with unwanted pregnancies.
Police say 13 out of 65 cases involving the dumping of newborns have resulted in prosecutions. All of the accused were Malays.
Which Malaysian Muslim family can accept a baby born out of wedlock and raise the innocent life while guiding the young parents?
What are the guarantees of the hardliners to continue trusting & loving their children after ‘menconteng arang di muka keluarga’?
If I were to be a young dad at the age of 20, am I ready to be thrown out of the family (with no education and money) for having a baby out of wedlock?
These are probably the concerns of the hundreds over young women who had to dump their newborn babies, in defence of the unwelcoming or rather lack of family support to go through the phase of their mistake, that’s partly the parents’ fault as well. True, the State is trying its best to fill the gap of faltering family institution, but what’s more important is to look beyond alternatives such as ‘Rumah Kebajikan, Rumah Pemulihan Akhlak’, or ‘hatchets in hospitals’.
What happens to the well-beings of these children then? Despite being born out of wedlock, they do not deserve to be isolated from the embrace of family.
Hence, parents of these troubled young mums have to do away with the connotation of ‘anak haram’ (the taboo of having illegitimate child), but to guide their children as well as many others of the same situation that it’s not the end of the world, and their family members will always be the backbone to provide full support in preventing the same mistake from happening.
We must come into a realisation that these young couples resort to dumping their newborn babies as they’re out of options due to the limitation set upon by social circumstances. Hence, the best way to solve the problem is not by providing more sanctuaries for such babies, but to tackle the root of the it.
Instead of crying over spilled milk, the right path is to ensure that our future generations do not fall trapped into it anymore. The start of ending this recurrent problem is for the society to change its mindset and approach in dealing with the situation of these rising young parents, rather than dismissing their plight for help and leave the responsibility to the State alone.